Forgiveness

Is a big topic in the spiritual world and is a huge wound for most of us.

We have all been exposed to things that require forgiveness. Some are more violent than others but that doesn't say anything about how we feel about it.

There are also a lot of opinions and attitudes about forgiveness.

For me, the most important thing is perhaps not to forgive but to give myself permission to let go of my addiction to the pain that has arisen and the disappointment, defeat and failure I have experienced.

For me it gives me peace of mind and space to live my life.

So you can call it forgiveness if you want.

And no, no one is saying it's easy 😉

Just because I'm giving it some other words. But words are power and changing the words to what we expect to achieve changes the energy and gives us another way to work with the wound that hurts and that we keep picking at or clinging to.

So the next time you are told to forgive, turn the other cheek or whatever it is that you think is so hard and not something you want to do (because they/I don't deserve it) then start putting other words to it and give yourself permission to explore your perception of the different descriptions and what the different words awaken in you.

Give yourself permission to explore the world and the glasses you see it through.

The easiest way for me to do this is by using this phrase that comes from shadow work:

“I am the kind of person (forgiving, allowing myself to, or whatever it may be)

Because that’s how I am too.”

This opens up the energies so they can move through you and your body can do what it was created to do.

Say the phrase out loud as many times as you need to and notice how it feels in you.

At first, you may not be able to say it out loud at all

- Then write it down and read the phrase over and over

When you are ready, start saying it out loud.

If it’s a really big/deep wound/issue for you, you may need to write the phrase on a post-it and then go and look at it for a few days before you can say it out loud.

Saying it out loud makes you start to own that you are like that too, so it becomes your truth instead of you being someone who can't forgive, give yourself permission to let go or whatever it is you don't want to be about who you are.

When it lets go, the sentence becomes easier and easier to say out loud, because you are also letting go of the energy that holds you to that belief and thereby making room for you to:

1 – not spend energy there anymore

2 – be able to use that energy on something else

3 – live from a new truth and thereby create a new world.

And yes, that's how easy energy work (and forgiveness) can be.

I hope this helps you in your journey or starts you thinking.

Spiritual Heart teacher

Pernille Maij